the thing that called love...

Friends, from the bottom of my heart, I am struggling to avoid this sounding like sour grapes- I have personally never believed in love, girl friends or Valentines day and so. (Now, off course you would like to tell me that I haven’t grown out of the “Eww!! Girls, stage!” and with proud I accept your compliment.).

Sshhh…its college days and it was barely a week into college when our first pairs began sprouting. It started with a few and as time moved, within a month almost every one had fallen …in love …it seemed like an epidemic …spread inside the walls of my vibrant college within a limited space of time and regardless to say most of my friends were affected.

Again, in the forlorn eventide at the hostel, which came just before the sleep less nights of study (thanks to my HOD, most of our nights devoted for study .study and study...), tired by watching all this - love drama and cosy scenes at the college, I hoped to find some solace in friends, but what they did was nothing but mercilessly ruined my moments, those I suppose to spend in my own world of dreams, (hey I am a lotus eater at many point of time…) by repeating the same old campus folk-just about the hottest and cutest in their class and the beginning or failure of a true love). To be frank –still I didn’t absorb the gratification that they are enjoying from it.

Trapped in all this hard-hearted stuff, I felt trifle uneasy; obviously I look for ways out of this vortex called love. I then realized how entertaining a third person angle actually be…and so I began studying this phenomenon. Go ahead …call me weird.

Alright, it is a bit difficult …we call it love. It feels like love. What does love do to your brain chemicals, and is falling in love just nature's way to keep our species alive?

And finally … how to fall in love?

In a college life it all began with holding hands, cuddling and walking home together. Then the alluring magic happens…falling in the ultimate love. The term ‘love’ is an apple of discord due to its different aspects. It often considered as a general expression of positive sentiment or a stronger form of like. It is commonly contrasted with hate as a less sexual and more emotionally intimate form of romantic attachment, more over love is commonly contrasted with concupiscence; and as an interpersonal relationship with romantic overtones, sometimes it also clash with friendship, although the word love is often applied to close friendships.

A recent study reveals that it takes between 90 seconds and 4 minutes to decide if you love someone.

55 percent is through body language

38 percent is the tone and speed of their voice

Only 7 percent is through what they say

The triangular theory of love 
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Stage I – Lust

Wwoww…This is the first stage of love, in which we try to get a desirable being of opposite sex and satiate our carnal desires. This stage is mostly related with the sexual fantasies that a human being carries in his/her mind. The sex hormone that influence or cause this stage is testosterone and estrogen in both males and females.  

Stage II – Attraction

This is a marvelous stage when one is said to have "fallen in love". The person in totally in thoughts of his/her lover and can think of nothing else that person.

Stage III - Attachment

This is considered to the last stage of love and very much needed for a successful relationship. Attachment is the bond that keeps couples together long enough for them to have and raise children.

Amazingly enough, the amount of love one experiences depends on the absolute strength of these three components, and the type of love one experiences relay upon their strengths relative to each other.

Of course there are few eternal, everlasting and undying ones, there always have been and will be. And honestly, I realize that this is the time for me to admire those lucid and everlasting loves…